Who needs democrats? Seriously, I just met up with my friend Ben N. from SAIS, who is passing by Dublin, and we had a few in a local pub. He is one of the two smart republicans I know (the other being Kim) but found him to be radically moderate all of a sudden about a great many things. He is against the Iraq war, outright, and has been from the start. He’s against the recall vote in California (direct democracy being bad), nodded at my lamenting the rise of dynastic democracy of the USAfter the Bushes, watch for Hillary in 2008, though she might have to run against Jeb., and had we ventured into the US budget, we would probably have found ourselves in full agreement.
Where were the days of our stubborn idealism? I remember one pitched battle in the kitchen of our flat on Via Irnerio, in Bologna, about whether European or American democracy was superior, which degenerated into call and response along the lines of “is so, is not, is so…” Now we’d probably be at pains to point out the good parts of our respective democratic heritages. I certainly do about the US. On occasion.
I think I know where Ben’s mellowing has come from. He was accompanied by his lovely democrat wife, whom I hadn’t met before, and it is clear that in this bipartisan marriage, Ben has been doing some political migrating. I’m glad he has, because it gives me the necessary empirical evidence to push a hunch I’ve had to the level of hypothesis. His marriage is the third involving overtly political friends of mine that has manifested a lurch towards the political leanings of the woman in the relationship.
For example, Eurof, who used to fall asleep clutching a dog-eared copy of Hayek’s The Road to Serfdom, or who in a moment of drunken sincerity proclaimed his sexual attraction to Margaret Thatcher — this very same Eurof now entertains conspiracy theories about why Greece is no longer a superpower. He believes French foreign policy is enlightened, for God’s sake, and this coming from a Brit. Clearly, he is in love with a GreekEurof is on holiday in Greece at the moment, where they invented the internet 2000 years ago along with everything else, but lost it, so he will not be able to comment here just this minute..

Kim and Matthew, Oregon Gothic, 1998
Meanwhile, Matthew’s trajectory has been the opposite. He hailed from a solid middle class North London Labourite family, and his main stab at rebellion involved making bad postmodern student movies at Oxford. In Bologna, he dabbled in anarcho-revolutionary publishing, and was certainly not above such typical propaganda activities as spreading misinformation about revolutionary rivals. All this came to a screeching halt when he met Kim. Kim owned lots of guns. Now Matthew owns guns. Now Matthew wants to kick ass in Iraq. Enough said.
How to test my hypothesis, so that it can aspire to scientific rigor? Hoping for divorces and observing any shifts would clearly be unethical. Perhaps in the future we should do a better job of chronicling our stated political leanings, so that we can be held to account when we venture off the Shining Path and down the wedding aisle. Oh, that’s what blogs are for.